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11th Jan 2022

Woman’s viral story about why you should always have sex on first date divides internet

Charlie Herbert

Woman explains why you should have sex on first date

‘Have sex on the first date, you heard it here first…’

A woman went viral on TikTok after explaining why she believes people should always have sex on the first date.

It’s a subject people can have very differing opinions – but after one experience that Eve Culling had, she was left in no doubt that sleeping together on a first date is the way forward.

In her video, she says, “OK, I am going to tell you guys why it is crucial, important to have sex on the first date. So, hear me out: I recently was seeing this guy — we were taking things slow. We probably had 10 to 15 dates before actually having sex.

“Before we had sex, I asked him, ‘So, what do you like during sex, do you have any kinks?’ … He was like, ‘No, I don’t really have any kinks, nothing crazy.'”

But things took a turn when they did get to know each other in the bedroom.

She explained: “So we go to have sex, at first it was fine. His d*ck was fine, he was fine, and then he starts to dirty talk. Now, I know what you’re thinking. ‘Dirty talk is sexy, dirty talk is hot.’ I agree, completely.

“But this man did not do your typical — he could have said anything other than what he said. Let me reenact this for you. I am him: ‘Yeah, yeah, you want me to get you pregnant? You want me to put a baby in you so everyone knows you’re mine?!’

“Now, I don’t kink shame, but what the f**k. … First time having sex, I ask you about kinks — you didn’t think you should tell me that? You don’t spring that on somebody.

“Also, then he was like talk back, talk back, say something. What the f**k do you want me to say? ‘Yeah, you wanna pay for my abortion? Yeah, you wanna be a single dad?’ Months of getting to know this guy, getting deep with him, getting personal with him — out the door. Have sex on the first date, you heard it here first…”

This obviously prompted quite the debate in the comments, but most people understood what Culling was getting at, with this comment perhaps summing up her argument best:

After going viral, Culling – who has since deleted her TikTok account – told BuzzFeed that the main reason she thinks having sex on the first date can be beneficial is to determine if that person is sexually compatible with you. Because in this example, the two clearly weren’t.

She said: “Make sure there isn’t anything major that you aren’t okay with. But also, keep in mind that sometimes sex is awkward at first. Sex gets better the closer you and your partner become and with good communication.”

Culling also added that people should do whatever they’re comfortable with sexually, explaining: “There’s no right way. And I actually don’t feel that strongly about having sex early on in dating. I was making a joke and being dramatic.”

Amen to that.

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