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09th Jun 2023

Mum faces backlash after asking for cash instead of presents at child’s birthday

Ellen Fitzpatrick

‘I don’t think many people would be happy reading that invite’

Many people have been left divided online after a mother from Sydney requested that anyone attending her four-year-old daughter’s birthday party bring a cash gift instead of physical presents.

Taking to Sydney Mums Facebook Group, the parent wrote: “My four-year-old is turning five soon and we are planning a birthday party for her.

“Is it okay to mention in the invite that we would prefer cash contributions rather than gifts? The intention is to have a compilation and then get her to go shopping for her a gift of her choice.

“We just live in a two-bedroom unit, so we don’t really have space for a huge amount of toys.”

hey finished up the post by asking other mums would they make a similar request for their child.

Most parents disagreed with her, saying they would never ask for money when it came to a birthday party for their child.

One parent said: “I don’t think many people would be happy reading that invite. It puts them in the awkward position of trying to figure out the ‘right’ amount to give.”

A second agreed: “This is awkward, especially if it’s a daycare/school friend that you don’t know that well. What’s acceptable? Also, I think part of the joy at their age is opening up the gifts and it being a surprise.”

While most people disagreed, one mum said: “We asked for cash instead of a gift for our daughter and have used this money on her swimming/dance classes instead. We were moving and expecting a baby so the ‘stuff’ would not have been appreciated.”

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