She explained that her boyfriend ‘doesn’t value money the most – he values being supported and cared for’
A woman lets her boyfriend pay the entirety of their rent, bills and holidays – while she treats him to smoothies and does the housework – and says he tells her she’s “an investment”.
Hannah Chan, 27, realised she wanted someone who could provide for her after continuously going on dates with non-assertive men who couldn’t take the lead.
As a career-driven woman, she realised that in a relationship she wanted someone who could “dominate” and provide for her. When fellow business owner Ed Reay, 22, reached out to her in May last year the pair hit it off and realised their values were aligned.
Ed, who is originally from Vancouver, Canada, reached out to Hannah after seeing her on a client’s website in May. The pair instantly hit it off and he booked a flight two weeks to come and visit her in London in July
The couple soon fell in love, with Ed making the move to London just a couple of months later.
Gradually as their relationship progressed, Ed started taking on more financial responsibility and now pays for all their dates, rent, bills and holidays.
Hannah “gives value back” by doing the housework and “making him feel relaxed and supported.”
The business consultant, from Canary Wharf, London, said: “I started to realise that in a relationship I didn’t want to be the dominant one and I wanted someone who could provide for me.
“Before I had always viewed my business success and money I earnt as my value in dating, but I realised I didn’t want that. After meeting Ed, he told me he wanted to provide for me.
“We have a 100/100 relationship – he provides financially, and I give him 100 percent when it comes to support and love and little things like bringing him a smoothie after a stressful day.
“There is no right and wrong in dating, the most important thing is that your values align between you and your partner for what you want in a relationship.”
Hannah was quick to work out that Ed wanted to be a provider in a relationship – and that their values aligned.
“It naturally came up that he wanted to be someone who could provide,” she said.
“So, it was perfect. At the beginning he would just pay for dates, and then he started paying for me to get my nails done and now he covers our rent and bills. My value comes from supporting him and balancing the masculine energy.”
She explained that Ed “doesn’t value money the most – he values being supported and cared for.””But Ed makes most of our plans and now sorts and pays for our holidays,” Hannah continued. “He thinks of me as an investment as I’ve supported him, and it’s meant he now makes three times what he used to earn.”
Hannah now realises that there is more to her than how much money she makes and has now found balance in working hard in business and still enjoying her life.“I work about three hours a day because I still love what I do,” she said.
“I choose to work and in the past, I used to see being successful in my business as what defined me. Now it doesn’t, and I do it because I genuinely love it. Money shouldn’t be an indication of what someone brings to a relationship.
“Ed supports us financially, but I equally bring value to our relationship. It’s about what the money represents. There’s no right and wrong in dating and what you want in a relationship.
“Some want a 50/50 relationship, but Ed and I like the dynamic we have. It works for us.”
Ed said: “Being a provider gives me a sense of responsibility and gives life meaning. I love being able to spoil someone I love but you don’t need to have lots of money to do that.
“In our relationship I see it as the man’s job to provide the house and the woman’s to make the home. Hannah is amazing at encouraging me of my goals and keeps me on track to making me a better person.
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