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20th Sep 2021

‘My parents secretly did a DNA test on my baby because they didn’t trust my wife’

Charlie Herbert

Father left furious after his parents do secret DNA test on his child

The man said he had cut his parents out of his life since finding out

A dad has described how he “blew up from anger” after discovering that his parents had performed a secret DNA test on his child because they didn’t trust his wife.

In a post on Reddit, the man told the story of how his parents had never liked his wife from the day he started going out with her.

He said: “I met my wife Sonya at a restaurant where she worked as a waitress. It took me a while to finally be her boyfriend.

“I introduced her to my parents and they voiced out their disapproval after meeting her.

“My parents think that Sonya is only using me to achieve her American dream. I told them that is racist and I am very offended by their assumption.”

He said that when he proposed, her parents were delighted but his parents “refused to give their blessing.”

They eloped and two years later had a child, Garreth, together. After this, the man’s parents got back in touch and began to visit regularly.

But one day he overheard a comment from his mother that left him reeling.

He explained: “My parents visit us regularly and one day while dad and mom are playing with Garreth mum said something along the lines of ‘aren’t you the cutest baby ever? I am so glad to confirm you are indeed my grandson’.

“She didn’t know I was around because she looked startled when I said ‘what was that supposed to mean?'”

It turned out that his parents had done a DNA test on his child because they didn’t trust his wife and thought Garreth didn’t look anything like him.

After this revelation, he told his parents to leave, only telling his wife about the incident two weeks later. Once he told her, she said that she can “no longer let my parents into out child’s life and I agreed with her.”

So he cut his parents out of his life, much to the fury of his father.

He concluded the post by asking the Reddit community whether he had overreacted – however it seemed like the vast majority were on his side.

One person said: “Toxic grandparents don’t belong in the family. No matter how hard it is to cut them out.”

A second commented: “This man is protecting his family from those mean people. Stand your ground! Those parents are manipulative.”

Another added: “If they thought it was the right thing to do, they would not have hidden it.

“It’s a huge slap in the face for, not only your wife but yourself, too. Your parents have shown that they don’t trust your relationship, your decisions, your autonomy or your child’s either.”

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