Here’s how often the happiest couples have sex, according to experts

The experts have chimed in

Dr. Carolina Castaños, a clinical psychologist who specializes in marriage and family therapy, says that “there is no magic number”.

Like with most other things in life, a healthy sex life is more about quality than quantity, Dr. Castaños says.

“You can have sex every day and still feel disconnected from your partner, or you can have it once a week and it can be so meaningful. Good sex or intimacy is a product of a close and safe relationship,” she says.

Does how often you have sex even matter?

Dr. Castaños says that “sex is not like drinking water where you need a certain amount every day and the reason is that sex only complements the connection between two people.”

But even though there is no right number of times you should be having fun with your partner, it is still an important part of any romantic relationship.

How do you know if you're not having sex often enough?

How often you and your partner should be having sex and why is not something that can be determined by someone outside of your relationship.

“At the same time, if you have not had sex for over a month, it can be a sign of something deeper happening in your relationship”, Dr. Castaños adds.

So, if you and your partner are not having sex as often as you'd like or as often as you used to, it could be because you are not communicating your feelings with each other.

How do you know if you're having sex too often?

“It's possible that you might be trying to fill a void within you through sex”, Dr. Castaños adds.

So yes, too much sex is indeed a thing. It's not really about having sex too often, though, and more about having sex for the wrong reasons.

Dr. Castaños tells Elite Daily that “when you have an orgasm, you secrete oxytocin, which is a hormone that reduces cortisol, the stress hormone. You have this positive feeling, like a rush, and eventually, you start craving it. It's almost like a drug”.

Long story short, you know you're having too much sex when your goal is not to be intimate with your partner but to distract yourself from whatever else is going on in your relationship.