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12th Dec 2016

There is a limit to how many sexual partners you should have if you want to find love, claim researchers

Bad news lotharios

Megan Roantree

We thought it was all about looks and/or a sense of humour?

But it turns out the number of sexual partners you have had in the past will affect your chances of finding true love in the future.

Or at least it does according to new research which has looked at how sexual history affects attractiveness.

The researchers surveyed people on their preferences and found that “for the average woman and the average man in our sample the ideal mate was not someone without any sexual history.”

”Our participants were reasonably willing to get involved with such a person; however, they were more willing to get involved with someone who had some history.” it said.

So basically someone who had never had sex wasn’t as favoured as someone who had had some sex, but crucially not too much sex.

When it came to a high number of sexual partners participants said this was a huge turn-off.

”Both sexes expressed equal reluctance to get involved with someone with an overly extensive sexual history.”

It also found that those who were looking for casual sex, cared less about a high number of partners than those who were interested in a long-term relationship.

So while no exact numbers were revealed, it seems that most people are looking for someone who has some experience but not too much experience.

Another 2016 survey asked people think is the ideal number of sexual partners to have in a lifetime and for both men and women, people said seven.

They were also asked what would be considered too promiscuous in their opinion and those surveyed said that 14-15 was too much.