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16th Feb 2023

‘Cougar’, 40, dates men as young as 18 because guys her own age ‘can’t keep up’ in the bedroom

Steve Hopkins

‘If I want sex, I want sex now and don’t want to wait for a blue pill to kick in’

A self-confessed 40-year-old “cougar” dates men as young as 18 – claiming middle-aged men just ”can’t keep up” with her in the bedroom.

And Shirley Rosemary Flynn claims she has no shortage of young suitors.

The customer sales advisor started casually dating younger guys after finding that men her own age were “boring” and “didn’t want to explore in the bedroom” in the same way she did.

Feeling unsatisfied by previous partners of a similar age, Shirley started to explore relationships with men in their 20s and 30s and found she was far more sexually compatible with blokes several years her junior.

Shirley now exclusively dates younger men and is proud to call herself a cougar.

Shirley, from the West Midlands, said: “If I want sex, I want sex now and don’t want to wait for a blue pill to kick in.

“A lot of men my age are rubbish in bed, and some can’t even rise to the occasion in the first place.

“They roll over and play dead afterwards, which is so boring.

“Younger guys have more stamina and are more open-minded and exciting.

“They take one look at me and are ready to go.”

Shirley says she needs someone that can “keep up with me, and younger men can go for miles.”

Shirley first started dating younger men in 2015, after turning 40, and realising that she wasn’t attracted to her male peers.

Shirley’s striking appearance and 38J breasts meant she was never short of male attention and would frequently have men approach her in the gym or contact her on social media.

“It’s flattering when guys approach me, but sometimes the messages I receive are quite inappropriate,” Shirley admitted.

“They often want nude or topless pictures, which makes me feel uncomfortable.

“I’ve had videos sent of men pleasuring themselves, once while he was holding a picture of me.”

Shirley’s youngest partner was 18 when they got together, and the couple had a relationship for three years before amicably going their separate ways, when he was 21 and she was in her 40s.

“Our families weren’t keen at first, but eventually they could see that we were happy and were supportive,” Shirley said.

“Most of his friends gave the thumbs up, they thought fair play.

“Some of his friends wanted a piece of me as well and tried it on.”

Shirley said she doesn’t want to settle down with a younger guy, “it’s just a bit of fun”.

Shirley – who is currently single – claims that many of the men are not as experienced as her and so she often ends up “training” her young lovers.

“I’d show them how it’s done and what women really want in the bedroom.

“Most boys learn about sex through porn, which isn’t realistic and can be damaging.

“I show them what it’s like to be with a real woman.”

Shirley credits the likes of Jennifer Lopez, Amanda Holden and Kim Kardashian for inspiring her to embrace her sexuality in her 40s.

“I like to keep my options open and don’t want anything long term or to settle down,” she said.

“There’s a few downsides to dating younger men, as some are quite immature.

“Sometimes it’s like having to parent them, which I don’t want.”

Shirley said Kardashian and J-Lo are prime examples of “being sexy in your 40s”.

“They’re showing that 40 is the new 20.

“There’s nothing wrong with being a sexual woman in your 40s or 50s.

“People assume that we’re ‘past it’ but that couldn’t be further from the truth for me.”

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