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11th Aug 2023

Man refuses to help wife with childcare after she says he’s ‘not the father’

Joseph Loftus

It all started when he noticed a dent in his car.

While for most taking care of your children seems like something you ‘have to do’, one man has since argued otherwise.

Taking to Reddit, the anonymous man revealed that he has began neglecting his parental duties after his wife of four years screamed that he is “not the father” to her children during a very heated argument.

In the now viral post, the man wrote: “My wife and I have been married for about four years. She brought three kids from previous relationships into the marriage, while I have none.

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“They moved into my house after the marriage because I live in a better school district.  Obviously we’ve had our ups and downs, but overall it’s been good, until a couple of weeks ago when I woke up and found a large dent running down the entire passenger side of my car.”

The man explained that he then checked his security cameras, thinking someone must’ve bumped into his car and left a dent, however he was wrong.

He wrote: “I was surprised to see our 16-year-old daughter sneaking out of the house in the middle of the night and driving off in my car. She later returned hours later stumbling into the house.

“I angrily showed my wife the recording and told her our daughter needs to be punished but she said that she’ll talk to her. I argued that talk isn’t enough which led us into an argument. 

“My wife argued that the new family dynamic has been hard on the kids while I argued that, it doesn’t excuse the damage done to my car. I wanted her to agree to ground our daughter from social media and make her get a job to pay for the damage.”

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But then came the final blow as he explained: “We argued for hours until she said I don’t get a say in any punishment because I’m not her father. That ended the argument and I walked off.”

After his wife said this, the man claims he has began refusing fatherly duties including taking the kids to doctors apointments, football practice, and more.

He said: “I’ve been an adult and make sure the kids are safe and fed, but I’m not doing anything a father would do.”

Many people are siding with the father, saying this his wife ‘wants to have her cake and eat it’.

Another wrote: “She doesn’t get to make you dad when it is convenient and then dismiss you when she feels like its all or nothing.”

Whose side are you on?

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