‘We have sex four times a week and 12 holidays a year, kids would ruin our marriage’

'Most people say when you have kids - your life will be over'

Taylor Vasu, 28, and her husband, Justin, 27, are intentionally child-free and label themselves as 'DINKS' - which stands for dual income no kids.

The couple, who have been together for six years, spend their free-time travelling, going for spontaneous lunch dates, working out and sleeping in on the weekends. They book time off work at a “week's notice” and say they have “wild sex” four times a week.

Taylor believes it would be “irresponsible” for her and Justin, an IT sales executive, to have children currently as they are “expensive”, and they want to wait until they are “financially prepared”.

Rather than putting money aside for any future children the pair are saving to buy a house.

Taylor is “terrified” about the strain having a child can place on a marriage – and says she doesn’t want to end up like other people she knows with children who are “often miserable”.

The interior designer, from Laguna Beach, Orange County, California, said: “Most people say when you have kids - your life will be over.

“It makes us not want to have any.

“People sometimes guilt trip me by saying my maternal clock is ticking. “I tell them - ‘You’re just mad at the consequences of your own actions, I don’t want to be miserable like you.’ “We can do whatever we want, whenever we want, and I don’t want to give that up.”

The married couple met in college in July 2017 and got married in Hawaii in June 2022 and are not thinking of having children anytime soon. Taylor says the pandemic is a major reason for their decision to hold off.

She said: “We lost two years of our lives to covid.

“We both love to travel - it’s always been the foundation of our relationship.

“Now the world is functioning again, we want to visit all the places we missed out on.”

This year they plan to visit Mexico, Colorado, Utah, Texas, New York and even Italy and Taylor feels having children would be an encumbrance to their travelling plans.

She said: “We have friends with young children and we see how much it halts their lives. “You rarely see a couple with a newborn travelling to Tahiti. Children are so reliant on you.”

Taylor and Justin enjoy their spontaneous lifestyle and are “unwilling” to give it up for the sake of having children.

They enjoy working out together on the beach, grabbing drinks at lunch time, playing golf after work and seeing friends on the weekends.

Taylor said: “Our schedule is really ours to make.

“We love a spontaneous plan, and when you have kids, that’s not possible.”

Taylor also believes being child-free helps to keep the spark alive in the bedroom.

She said: “You’re not as tired, so you can have wild sex nights during the week if you want.

“You work out together in the morning, so the foreplay starts as soon as you wake up.

“By the end of the night you want to jump your partners bones. When you have children, you have no time for that.”

Taylor is “terrified” about the impact a child could have on her marriage and wants to be financially stable before contemplating having children.

She said: “Your life becomes all about your child, and you forget about yourself and your marriage. “Maintaining your independence in a relationship is really important, but that becomes really difficult with children because they are so reliant on you.

"It’s hard to hold onto your identity.

“Having a child is expensive. “I want to buy a house and have a good solid 10-15k before I think about having a kid.

“We want to wait until we’re financially prepared to have children, to get the bulk of the travelling done, and to give our children the best life possible.

"I want to be the person whose life doesn’t come to a screeching halt when they have children.

“I’m terrified of being a bad parent, so I’d rather take care of myself first. “When you have children, your weekends are over, date nights - forget about it - and intimacy goes down the toilet. “Financially and mentally we’re not ready. I still want to spend time and have fun with my husband.

“Right now we’re really enjoying being young and in love, and we don’t feel any need to have kids any time soon.“

Justin said: "I'm very much on the same page. I do want kids eventually, but right now, I just want to enjoy my time with Taylor and enjoy our relationship."

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